Sadly, he took her word for it because after all, she has “been in the business for 15 years” and therefore and expert. If you think about it, that agent did herself, Anthony, the local community, and the real estate market as a whole, a real disservice because there is always a fortune to be made in foreclosures–especially now, whether she knows it or not. The proof is overwhelming. The agent was wrong, BUT was able to convince Anthony. Why do you think that is? Here’s what I’ve noticed over the years: When you and I are in a position where we are looking for guidance or advice, unfortunately we often ask a person who, when given the opportunity, finds some perverse pleasure in imposing their will on us. Like when someone tells you, “You can’t do that” even when they’re dead wrong. Have you ever noticed that?

What I’ve discovered is when you’re asking for guidance or advice from someone who doesn’t know or isn’t sure of what your asking, they’ll say, “You can’t do that” because it allows them to maintain their position of authority over you. Think about it. If this person were to say, “Gee, I’m not sure” or “I don’t know anything about it” or “I’ve never done it, so I’m not sure,” they would give up their position of authority over you. In fact, they’d come down to “your level” and really be more like a peer than an authority.So why do they feed you BS? It’s because their ego is so fragile that the mere thought of you knowing they don’t know the answer and maybe aren’t as smart or experienced as you thought, is overwhelming to them.

Their desire to be seen as the brilliant authority overrides their desire to be honest and humble. You know what I mean? I see this as a low brow form of manipulation and trickery. Is it dishonest? Yes. Is it pathetic? Abso-danglutely! Look out! They are everywhere…  There are people all around you who are like this, to the core, and who will happily ruin your day or worse–steal your dream, if you let them. They come in all shapes and sizes with all sorts of backgrounds and professions. They’re all around you, all the time–family, and friends included! Your ability to succeed in anything will come, in large part, from your ability to take this in stride and tune it out! So, anytime you hear the word “No” or “You can’t do that” or “That’s illegal” or “I tried that, and it doesn’t work,” I strongly suggest you doubt what you’re hearing and insist on drawing your own conclusions.

Otherwise, you’re doomed! There has never been a better time! I’ve been in the business of buying and selling real estate for more than 16 years now, and I’ve seen up, down, and sideways markets. I’ve bought and sold all kinds of properties. Heck, I have four under contract now. I’ve made (and  continue to make) a killing doing it in spite of the dream stealers in my world. You can too! I say there has never been a better time to make a fortune in real estate than right now, and YOU deserve to be part of it and to get your share. You are worthy of wealth, happiness, and what every your definition of success may be! Anyone who tells you otherwise simply wants to steal your dream. Don’t let the dream stealers get you!

This article is reprinted here with permission from Creative Real Estate Online at http://www.creonline.com/articles/art-385.html

About the author:

Cameron Dunlap has been a full-time real estate investor since 1993 and a nationally known real estate trainer since 1995. Within his first two years in the business he amassed millions of dollars of residential and apartment complex properties in addition to buying and selling real estate, particularly foreclosures, for quick cash profits. Cam is known as the Transaction Technician because of his skill in using almost every creative technique in purchasing & selling real estate which has made him a fortune. He continues to invest in full time, teach his techniques all over the US, and run several other very successful companies. He defines the entrepreneurial spirit every day and truly enjoys the fruits of his success.

For the next year my mission will be to point out success stories from fellow REAP members.  My grandfather taught me something when I was a teenager and I have come to believe it to be a fundamental success principle.  Success Principle: Success leaves clues.   Success is taking place every day by people and companies around you.  They are not luckier or smarter than you and me.  What they have is a plan based on what has worked for others, taking the correct actions on a daily basis, and know that success is possible amongst all the noise of failure, gloom, and doom.

Each week as I share the stories of fellow REAPS members you will see what they are doing, read what is working for them as well as what has not and what they do to keep themselves moving forward and motivated.   Another Success Principle:

Knowledge + Attitudes + Skills + Habits = Success

I will keep this principle in mind as I meet and talk with members who are having success in what they are doing.  You will see how they got started and what they are doing.  You will get a glimpse into their attitudes and habits.  If you are looking you will find ideas that you can use to improve yourself and your real estate business on your road to success.  Take the time to spend time with those who see the possibilities and are not following the norm and you will start to see possibilities as well and find yourself changing your non-supportive habits.  I truly believe that no matter where you are or what happened to you last year or in years past; you can make this year a better year.  Check back often to see what others are doing and please leave your comments on what you find useful and your questions.

To Your Success,
Mitchy